"I'll Be Home For Christmas" Performed by Thy Phan & Milbert Tumaliuan
I hope to be home for Christmas, or rather have a house for Christmas as a first-time "home-buyer." I have a home, with my wife and kids, but we're looking for something bigger, yet smaller, a place for three generations to live together, something fellow Pittsford, NY resident Christopher Lasch described in The True and Only Heaven: Progress and Its Critics:
- We wanted our children to grow up in a kind of extended family, or at least with an abundance of “significant others.” A house full of people; a crowded table ranging across the generations; four-hand music at the piano; nonstop conversation and cooking; baseball games and swimming in the afternoon; long walks after dinner; a poker game or Diplomacy or charades in the evening, all these activities mixing adults and children–that was our idea of a well-ordered household and more specifically of a well-ordered education.
Interestingly, certain people, especially professional women, greet our decision to establish a three-generational household, especially given that my parents are quite healthy, with reactions ranging from amusement to thinly-veiled disgust. But my mother says of our counter-cultural experiment in communal and intentional living, "More and more people are going to have to do it in the future."
Fortunately, it is not a matter of having to do it but wanting to do it. We'll be pooling our resources and getting a far better place than we could have done on our own, and we'll have each other to depend on. There will always be someone home for the kids. I grew up in a three-generation home, come to think of it the only one I knew besides my cousins, and see nothing but benefits for everyone involved.